Teen Cutting? i have a friend who started cutting recently does anybody know of anything i could say to make her feel better and stop cutting?. im really concerned about her and i want to be able to make her feel better. and should i tell her parents? |
she probably started to cut to deal with those issues. she needs to find someone that she can talk to. cutting is something that only becomes a bigger problem with time. it's like a drug and is habit forming. you cannot make her stop cutting. she needs to decide that on her own.
if she wants a place to vent, she can try recoveryourlife.com. i recently became a member and i have found it somewhat useful. they have a distraction page and arcade that she could check out whenever she feels the urge to cut. plus, they have live help and place where she could post her thoughts and questions about SI.
if she wants to try and stop cutting, you might want to give her some alternative ways to satisfy that urge to cut. like holding an ice cube and using red food coloring.
with that said, all you can really do is provide support and encourage her to seek help.
btw, i'm not so sure you should tell her parents or counselor. how did you find out about her cutting? did she tell you? you don't want to lose her trust or she might not confide in you again. it's up to you though. just be careful on how you approach the situation. |
I need answers about teen cutting and suicide? I really want to hear from teens that are cutting or thinking about suicide or those who used to cut and used to have suicidal thoughts, and how you overcame them. I have someone that is very near and dear to my heart that I very much want to help. All with serious answers please help. |
First off, you're right, this is an uncomfortable subject.
When I had this problem and friends around me had this problem, it was all because of emotional reasons. Things weren't going the way we wanted them to in our lives and it was making us depressed. It built up all this stress that we felt like we couldn't cope with anymore. Seeing blood and seeing that you can be injured was a way of knowing you're mortal, you are human. It felt as if you were bleeding yourself of your ailments. Then, the thought of suicide offered an easy way to get out of it all. It was a solution to rid you of all the stress. That way, when everything came out, you wouldn't have to be around to hear what others are saying and it would all be gone. Most of the cutting and suicidal tendencies that friends and I faced were affected by the way we viewed ourselves in our peers eyes and not the way we viewed ourselves.
When I stopped, it's because I realized what it was doing to people around me. It was only later on what I realized I was doing to myself. I saw the looks on the other people's faces when they saw the marks. I noticed the way they reacted when I told them a made-up, impractical story to try to cover it up. It's when people started talking is when it actually stopped. I woke up to see that others would lose respect for me if they knew I had such a strange problem. I realized that I would always be watched and I could never really do what I wanted to do without being cared for; cradled. And now, when I see the scars, I realize that I lived though whatever I was going through, and now things are better.
To help that person who is dear to you, you need to care for them. I know it's an obvious answer, but it's exactly what you have to do. I know that if there was someone out there who told me that I would get through the hard times, I wouldn't have hurt myself. If someone was by my side telling me that everything gets better and I'll learn to love my life, I wouldn't have made so many bad choices. After I went through my problem and got over it, it was time to help my best friend.
My best friend's step father was on suicide watch with a drinking problem. She's never met her real father, but she has no respect for him because of the stories she had been told. Her mother was always finding problems with her no matter what she did and she began to drink too. Then my friend, a really good girl, began to drink, cut, and try to end her life. After I was done with my issues, I did for her EXACTLY what I wished someone would have done for me. I stood by her. I took away her opportunities to make bad decisions and replaced them with fun activities that didn't involve those bad choices. We went to movies, the beach, and just hung out and all the while I told her that life doesn't have to be the depressing place she sees it as. It can be so much fun as I was showing her, and then she stopped. She saw the truth like I did. She saw that I was there for her.
I hope that all of this helps you. I hope you can understand your dear one's problems now and have some idea of what they are going through. This firsthand account should be your way of explaining to them exactly what I explained to my best friend and what I wish could have been explained to me much earlier.
"Life goes on and it's amazing. And I'm glad to know that you'll always be there proving that to me."
-my best friend
~AdeptChick1
Amber |
How common is teen cutting? I have an addiction to cutting myself. I cut sometimes just to make scars or to see how deep i can go. It's very sick i know, but how common is this. Well how common is teen cutting? Do you cut? |
| It's not that sick. I think I'm addicted. It makes me fell better, but I do kinda get a high off of it. No one knows that I cut. at all. no one will ever know that knows me. I think that must mean a lot of people do it because no one would expect it of me. Sometimes out of curiosity I look at girls legs and wrists in PE to see if any have experimented. My legs are the worst. I bite too. It's not as bad. It hurts worse, though and leaves a hicky-looking thing. |
What are some good movies about teen depression and cutting? any good movies about teen depression, eating disorders, cutting, etc.?
thanks! |
White Oleander www.imdb.com/title/tt0283139/
Speak www.imdb.com/title/tt0378793/
Girl, Interrupted www.imdb.com/title/tt0172493/
Thirteen www.imdb.com/title/tt0328538/
Wrist Cutters: A Love Story www.imdb.com/title/tt0477139/ |
What are some good movies about teen depression and cutting? any movies about teen depression, cutting, eating disorders, etc.
thanks! |
1. Odd Girl Out
2. The Chumbsrubber
3. Manic
4. The Quiet
5. Igby Goes Down
6. Prozac Nation
7. Lost and Delirious
8. Mouth to Mouth
9. Life as a House
10. According to Greta
11. My First Mister
12. Havoc
**A Lot of Lifetime Channel movies deal with teen issues:
1. For The Love Of Nancy (anorexia)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4OFxW3AN…
2. Painful Secrets (cutting)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=9YhEKsA2k…
3. On the edge of innocence (depression)
www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1mqmr7f_… |
I am a teen giving a speech on cutting! I need info from all aspects?! WHY IS TEEN CUTTING ON A RISE? -Why is teen cutting on a rise? Why is this happening so much compared to years ago?
-Do you think it is a sickness or an issue...explain?
-What makes teens cut? |
| More broken homes, more single parents, more working parents, more sex, drugs, etc loads of reasons which weren't an issue before |
Does anyone know any books about teen depression, cutting,and them getting counseling? i really want to read a book about teens living like this..like them having depression, and cutting themselves..then them getting help from a therapist or counselor.. |
| Catch me before I fall by Rosie Guys was an excellent read and true story. |
I need to find a website where I can find statistics on teen suicide and cutting or self mutalation? Hi my name is Jessica and I am the Drama leader at my church. My youth are doing a drama and I need to find some statistics on cutters (young people who cut themselves to relieve different things they may be going thru) and suicide. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thank you and may God bless you! |
Very easilly done here you go:
guyshealth.org/parent/emotions/be… |
Where do you send a teen that has been cutting? My daughter has been cutting and I just recently found out about it. Now that I look she seems to be extremely depressed and tends to put a lot of pressure on herself. I'm afraid she might try to kill herself. Is there some sort of hospital or place that I should send her too? |
I cutt ( at times of depression) and if you were my mom I'd be SOOOOOO pissed at your for posting this question
Buhh help would be nice |
How are parents to cope/help with a teen who is cutting? for those who don't know cutting is self infliction.......
I've gotten her to admit she's doing it but that's as far as I can get with her...I give her love and support but she doesn't see it she only sees the times I have to correct her and then sees it as me not loving her......I think I'm losing my mind thinking I may lose my daughter... |
My mom always cried when she found out i cut myself again...
and eventually something clicked inside my brain that asked me...why am i hurt myself...my mom...everyone around me, just to do this?...has this taken over my life? and realize how selfish i had been over the years..
My suggestion...talk to her and tell her how much you hurt, because she is hurting herself...and every time she cuts, that you feel her pain too...and makes you said... |